Dating men with baggage
And how can I maintain my confidence and self-respect now and not get emotionally swept away again, like I did before?
If you’ve read my articles and newsletters, so I know you know that I don’t sugarcoat my messages.
When you find out a guy has been married before, do you hit the brakes? I tell you what: You should be far more afraid of the dudes with zero baggage. They know two things: What it’s like to love and what it’s like to lose. I hadn’t dated anyone in that situation prior, and I found it refreshing to date a grown man with commitments and obligations.
I personally have never trusted someone who travels a little too light. When you date a much younger man (which I have many times), you realize what’s missing–they’re all hope, no miles.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! At times I feel like I'm being a little cold, but I just don't want to invest myself too much, considering the risks.
Some forums can only be seen by registered members. All this stuff is ringing up warning bells in my head.
One of the most serious boyfriends of my adult life was divorced, or divorcing (he’d been separated a year).
He knows what it is to be humbled by love, and to put other people first.
so if I come off harsh or very blunt at any point, it’s nothing against you personally.To be fair – most people have ‘nice qualities’ and of course, as humans, we’re very good at rustling up qualities and seeing the best in people.This isn’t a bad quality but what we forget is that somebody’s availability and their ability to commit isn’t about ‘nice qualities’.If anything, it’s to bust through heavy layers of thoughts, beliefs, or ideas that are holding you back and actually causing the problems you’re concerned with.So let me start off by saying that your question doesn’t strikes me like a woman asking about a male friend. I can’t imagine that you try to force your other friends to talk about stuff they don’t want to talk about.