Dating an angry man
"Usually when people jump into the next relationship, they haven't done the work to grow themselves from that space, [or] to ready themselves for the next relationship," says Pharaon.
"You want to make sure that person has some time in between the previous relationship to actually be a human."Gets Really Angry Really Quickly Guy When a guy's reactions are consistently overboard for what's appropriate, it's a big red flag. Ultimately, you want someone who is responsive, not reactive; someone who can understand where their feelings are coming from and act accordingly.
No wonder they feel powerless: they're being coerced to lay down their anger, the only weapon they've ever had against feelings of powerlessness.Over the past 30 years, I've spent nearly 25,000 hours counseling angry men, and until about two years ago, my enthusiasm was beginning to wane.If you've worked with angry male clients, you can understand why.They often trace their reliance upon anger to a childhood history of danger, trauma, shaming, and pain.Anger is the emotion they can trust, the one that might keep danger at bay.